Friday, 2 November 2012

Posted by Sibon Phiri on 07:29 No comments


Well I wasn't going to disappoint my friend and say I wouldn't be able start looking after her kids until later on as that would have inconvenienced her but at the same time I wanted to pay my respects.

 It was the first funeral I was going to attend. Quite surprising isn’t it? At 25 years old, I had never attended a funeral before. Anyhow, fortunately I was able to attend the funeral as it started at 10am and I wasn’t due at the house until 12.30am. I had enough time to speak with people afterwards and make my way to my friend’s house. I didn’t really have to rush. And then, the role of a mother began!

I know the children very well and they know me. Adriana, the eldest daughter who is 6, cried even before they left. Then Alicia, cried later on. I am sure it was the first time they would be away from their parents for more than a night so naturally they would cry and be upset. Arun, Chai and Caitlyne didn’t cry which was a relief as I don’t think I would be able to cope with 5 crying children. Arun is 11 so I couldn’t see him crying anyway lol.

The mistake I made was not attending the 7am service. I wanted to have as much sleep as I could so I wouldn’t be exhausted half way through the day lol. As the funeral was at 10am I couldn’t attend the service then and I did not want to take the kids out in the evening for the 7.30am service as the weather was (and still is) very cold and Caitlyne who is 20 months old had a cold. So I had to attend the 3pm service as I did not want to break my chain of prayer. The kids were well behaved on the bus and when we went to the shop, the cashier said to me “wow, you have your hands full. I am so surprised that they are so quiet and well behaved, usually kids are hysterical and causing havoc”. They are good kids and good parenting produces good kids.

After we arrived home, we played some games and then it was time to bathe the two youngest ones at 6.00pm. I understood why my friend does not always attend the evening services because when you have young children and they have a routine of eating, bathing and sleeping by a certain time, breaking that routine can affect their sleep pattern. By 8pm baby Caitlyne was in bed. But before that we ordered take away. When it arrived around 7pm I thought “yippee” because we were all hungry by then. However, when we paid the delivery man and sat to eat, we realised we had been sent the wrong food

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